“Yesterday, I was very low and lonely. I needed company. I wanted someone to talk with; someone to tell me that it is going to be okay. I went through the contacts in my phone-book. Up and down, down and up, I went through the contacts. Everyone in there is a friend of sorts but not the sort of friend I can call just to chat. My only close friends are my mother’s children – who work hard at their jobs during the day, thus have no time for idle talk.
And then I missed my mother and father dearly. It never mattered what the time of day or night it was, I could call them and talk for hours on end about this and that and the other. Death is horrible.
Sometimes all that one needs is another human being to talk with about nothing in particular. If you have friends that you holler and chat with when anxious or unsettled or lonely, do not take these friends for granted. It is a rare and special gift which must be cherished. You are to be envied, if you have an all-time friend or two,”
This is what Dr Nyanzi shared with her social media audience today morning . So many, like her fans revealed, relate with feeling intensely lonely and needing something in the way of companionship.
In the due process of comforting the Professor with ‘spiritual’ messages, she further responded with several attention-grabber comments like, ” These days I think that God no longer cares,”
To one who wrote and said, ” I wish I was your close friend but we just met on Facebook. I surely know you need to pour out your heart to God but it also okay to pour out your heart to a friend. May God provide one not only your siblings but also a friend. And Stella I believe you can get. Do not give up keep on the search. Blessings,” Dr. Nyanzi responded, “God suddenly took away both my parents without mercy. I don’t chitchat with him any more,”
Dr Stella has had the entire world listening to her voice and reading her material after the Chaos the broke out on social media a few weeks back. Her media platforms have had a peak in following, She has made headlines among the least expected media houses. Why would she feel lonely?
Why is this? Why is there such a mismatch between the reality of loneliness and the silence that surrounds the subject?
Loneliness is a profoundly human emotion: it’s the signal that our need for contact and connection is going unmet.
This may not settle as easily as the others, but I have learned the utter importance of taking time to express my emotions to God.
Sometimes that involves joy and gratitude, other times sadness and disappointment. On occasion, I notice that I’m angry or irritable, and I’ve learned to pay closer attention to this.
Those emotions are more often than, clues that are telling us that something needs to be paid closer attention to. And often it’s even revealing of what God wants to do in us or how he’s want to change us.
Being lonely is not necessarily about a-lone-ness, but about lack of intimate, meaningful connection. Intimacy comes from recognizing the value of vulnerability, that needing God is not a sign of weakness but a mere fact of human existence.
Bringing it back to prayer, although many want to pray regularly, consistently, passionately, and with great faith, we often find ourselves distracted, doubting, inconsistent, and irregular in our prayer life.
This is no arbitrary or unknowable God. This is the God who has revealed himself as mighty to save, all knowing, all powerful, wise, loving, for us and working all things together for the good of those who love Him. He is trustworthy. The question is, will you trust Him?
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Contribution by Ballagadde Samuel for UG Christian News.
