Pastor Peter and Irene Kasirivu of Gaba Community Church. COURTESY PHOTO.
A marriage or family can only be sustained by God, when the connection is broken everything breaks apart, reveals Gaba Community Church lead Pastor, Peter Kasirivu.
Quoting Genesis 2:22, Pastor Kasirivu explained that marriage is not merely a human agreement or civil union between two consenting individuals but “a relationship before and under God.”
“When the members of the family submit to God, it is always easier to submit to each other,” he stated, later quoting Jeremiah 31:31-32.
Married for over 26 years, the founder Africa Renewal University, stated in a blog post that a couple cannot leave God at the altar and expect to have a thriving marriage.
He then made reference to a statement by popular author Dr. Tony Evans.
“If your house has a damaged foundation, it doesn’t matter how much spackle you use, cracks will keep reappearing. In the same way, a family can’t succeed if you aren’t maintaining its foundation.”
For a healthy marriage, Pastor Kasirivu additionally believers that a couple must choose to come together in unity, oneness and commitment – and that each member must make room for the other.
“You both give up some of your individual freedoms or rights and welcome the others,” he wrote.
“Marriage is like a dance. You have to learn to dance to the rhythm. You learn to embrace, to let go, move slow or fast, you learn to change roles. When you do it willingly and well it is a joy but when you resist you have a disappointing dance. In a dance or play each has a role. Before the play or dance you are alone and only imagine how it will be, when you get into the game then you get to play your role. It is not comfortable at first but you practice, adjust and later on get used,” he wrote.
“You need to let go and you need to embrace the other’s view. It ceases to be your way and it becomes our way,” he continued.
Pastor Peter urged that change is a life-long process, hence Christian couples should not live their marriage to chance.
“Constantly learn to adjust your life and roles to the circumstances that are going on. Pregnancies come Children come. Job issues: when the man loses a job and you the wife has one, that is the time for you to provide. When sicknesses come, you the husband may need to cook, feed the kids and wash clothes,” he wrote.
