For those single, Facebook and other social networking sites have in a way helped you meet that special someone. However, for those seeking healthiest marriages, improper use can quickly devolve into a marital disaster.
Social media is officially in the building and on the streets. It’s you. It’s us. It’s exposure. I think we can all agree that social media has completely changed relationship dynamics, especially in the world of communication and disclosure. We confess and we invite and we watch the likes, retweets, replies and blocks.
All along, they who post have their intentions and they who read have their opinions. For nearly everyone but the writer, there is a car crash effect that’s hard to deny.
Let me share with you a few reasons why relationship problems don’t belong on social media.
It makes public what is meant to be private – In my opinion romance is one of those things that is meant to be private! Of course, to each their own, but it just seems that once you change your relationship status, the force of Facebook has its eyes on you.
Even with survivors comes injury – So you’ve survived the crash but you’re injured. Hearts can heal and minds can learn but the impact of exposing wounds can be massive. Your reputation. Your integrity. Your social capital. It’s all in jeopardy
People may not want to connect with you again – When you share relationship problems on social media, you’re inviting an audience and hoping for condolences and words of wisdom and encouragement. Friends are friends but they can only take so much excitement and intrigue. And before you say that true friends stick it out, there’s also something to be said about true friends not consistently bringing people too far into their chaos.
Lastly, you’re a survivor. So act like one – True survivors are courageous, strong and persevere. That doesn’t show through when we use social media as a canvas to paint our problems and grievances for the world to see.
