Speaking happily during a peaceful evening at Watoto Church down town on Friday, one could tell that their decade of togetherness has been of submission to one another, and commitment to loving God, through who our love grows more perfect.
Pastor Edward Mwesigye, 39, and wife Martha Mwesigye yesterday marked a decade of marriage. They shared a few marriage tips with hundreds that gathered for the weekly “Power, Sex and Money” event.
Fondly known as Pastor Eddy at his church, the mechanical engineer-turned Pastor, said getting married changed his life.
“She makes me laugh. We fight some times, you know – not real physical stuff – but we go through some times of ‘meditation’ as we both consider what to say to each other. The last 10 years have been really amazing. I must say I’m a better man today than I was 10 years ago.” He said.
“That is what marriage makes people. That is what it does. When you come together, submit to God’s plan, it changes both your lives. When you find that right person, could be any person, because she has been chosen to become that right person – becoming the right person is a choice that anyone makes. I’m an engineer by training, she is too. She told me, when she told her father about my interest in her, the farther was like; can two engineers co-exist in one house.”
The Preacher said Martha’s plans by the time he first approached her was to work for two years after graduation [since that is the working experience she needed] to go for a masters degree in engineering.
After that, she would then think about family. On the other hand, when she asked Pr Eddy what his plans were in the next five years he said, “My heart is in ministry. I love serving.”
“At that moment, she probably thought this is not the guy for me; one who could probably become a pastor, broke guy that could not support her dreams and any other thing. In her mind she was pursuing a career.” Pr Mwesigye said.
What changed her mind?
“I think what changed my mind was actually God. Even at that time before we graduated, I did feel the call on my life to full time ministry. But it did not make sense to me then, why I would spend all four years doing engineering at university and then going into full time ministry.
“Against that word on my life, I went ahead and got a job earning dollars. But it wasn’t fulfilling. Just to make a quick note, submission is not to a human being, it is to God. It is out of your relationship to God that you are able to learn what submission is. All this was before marriage, after working for a while, and opportunities for ministry were still being availed to me, turning them down.
“Soon, I realized there was no joy the other end. It came to me, that I was only there for the money. I made the decision to actually join ministry before we were even married. This of course made it easier for us [building our relationship]. But I cannot explain the joy, peace I experienced after making that choice. ” Mrs Mwesigye said.
Did her dream die when she got married to Pr Mwesigye?
“I still have dreams. It is surprising – I really believe that out of obedience, submission to God, we are blessed. Along the way, an opportunity opened up for me to pursue a masters degree not in engineering but in something else I found out I was passionate about in the last couple of years I was in ministry.
“My Husband was very supportive. What the scholarship didn’t cover, he covered it because I was not working then and we were expecting our first born.
“All this was from our talks, finding out what we are passionate about and where God is taking us as a married couple. He would know what my passions and interests are and I the same as a wife.” Mrs Mwesigye said.
Pastor Edward Mwesigye, now a father of three, told the congregants that submission in their marriage is not about his dream or hers, it is about God’s dream for them.
“Submission is way bigger than a vision, dream. It is not even about an individual, it goes way beyond that. Ephesians 5:21 says that submit to one another. Then it talks about wives and husbands. In other words, surrender your rights to one another as you would do to God. It takes a person of character to submit. It is always about “Together” not me as an individual.” Pr Mwesigye said.
Adding: “Lets not look so much at the word; Fight for your rights, as the world puts it. God did not fight for his right. He lay down his rights. Jesus laid down his rights as God and submitted himself to the will of God so that you and me might be lifted out of the miry clay so that we too can become sons and daughters of the most high God. It all begins with Jesus. He laid down His life down for us. The sky is not the limit to the dreams, vision that God wants to accomplish through your life.”
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