Pastor Gerald Mwebe offers practical advice to help you build a more satisfying and fulfilling marriage.
Well-known Pastor Gerald and his wife Diana exchanged their wedding vows in the ’90s. This week, social media was awash with congratulatory messages as the couple celebrated their 24th anniversary.
When it comes to marriage, Pastor Gerald who is the vision bearer of Streams of Life Church – Uganda believes that choosing who you will be spending the rest of your life with is one of the most important aspects.
Last year alone, Uganda experienced a wave of divorce cases involving influential people in society. The High Court Family Division explained that most of the couples cited what they perceived as “irreconcilable differences.”
“Who you marry will determine a lot of things in your life forever,” says Pastor Gerald. “In fact apart from your salvation, and your calling, the next major decision you make is who to marry.”
In his recent sermon labelled “Mentorship – Choosing Who To Marry”, the preacher observed that the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with will determine a lot of your other decisions in life.
“Just like you get serious about your education, your career, your investment, in the same way you should also be serious or even much more about choosing who to marry,” he says. “Invest time to learn, to consult, to get counsel and also to pray about it.”
It is believed that every one who intends to get married has a list of things they would want in a spouse – consciously or subconsciously.
For Pastor Gerald, one’s foundation which includes a vision for life essentially matters.
“If you go looking for a life partner before you even know what you want in your life, chances are you won’t get it right,” he says.
Adding: “I know many young people haven’t quite figured out what they want in their – this is why you need a mentor.”
No matter what marital season you’re in, Pastor Gerald’s encouragement is to consider the benefits of having a mentor, and to begin praying for God to bring the right individuals into your life who can come alongside you and your spouse.
“Don’t ever feel to proud to follow the leading of someone. You have probably heard of people who say for them they are “self-made”. That’s just pride. First of all we know that all we are is because of God and the people He has placed in our lives. Pride goes before destruction,” he says.
