By Derrick Kibbedi
During the great Exodus, when the Kings heard of what the Jewish people had done to other Kings; they made resolves, and in particular I want to point out the King of Jericho whose decision was to close his eyes and ears to whatever was happening outside. In the city of Jericho, they closed the gates and none was allowed to get in or out without permission. By doing this, it allowed their enemies time to do everything uninterrupted till the walls of Jericho fell down by a shout. Am partly right to say ‘many us have closed ourselves in our fortresses while we are allowing our enemies plot against us and in a finger snap we shall be doomed’
The underlying problems that lead to cyber intimacy appear to be typical, and they existed in marriage before the internet was invented. Pre-existing marital problems include; distress, sexual dissatisfaction, or boredom with the relationship, long hours on the internet, esteem issues.
If these problems affect an individual in a relationship, it may lead to this evil. It is true that men can do exploits but this issue tends to floor many, you all remember David and many great men of the Bible, and history as well. It is important to know that self command over your private life is an act of bravely.
In the Christian faith, they teach us about self deliverance; it is hard but the sacrifice and resource one puts in to overcome keeps him or her from falling back. Individuals should learn to preach themselves out of bondages, and as a couple, once you identify that your partner is having any of the underlying causes, endeavor to help out
In 2012, I was having a discussion with a pastor friend and up-to–date I hold his advice, he said; “when men discuss women bodies, leave that group if you have no intentions of having other wives, because if they discuss the body type which isn’t in your house; you shall surely look for it outside your house.” If we can translate this to the internet we could curb the evil down.
Focus on enhancing intimacy as a couple by identifying ways by which you can spend more time together, talk about the things that affect your relationship, and find practical and doable goals to make it work.
It is very sad that Christians are researched about more than they research about the outside world. Church should have research done to help its members. I have lived with Christians and I have seen some who don’t read books, newspapers or even watch news, and yet we hold this notion of being knowledgeable and reading the bible.
One of the reason God rejected the priests in Israel was lack of knowledge according to Hosea 4:6 “.: because thou hast rejected knowledge I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me;” as church there is need to bring knowledge to church not only for project funding but also to save marriages in this matter but also to holistically inspire Christians.
Dear brothers and Sisters, I want to sign out with the words of one of the greatest thinkers; Aristotle. “I count him brave who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self” Selah!
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