Often, in the pursuit of love, one may get so caught up trying to find the right person, that he/she ends up losing oneself.
But just as important as it is to find someone who has the qualities you want, it’s important to take some time to look inward, making sure that you are meeting the very standards the other person is looking for in a partner, Stella Aza – Madia, author and radio minister behind the “Beauty for Ashes” program that airs on Spirit 96.6 FM has revealed.
She has urged that singlehood should not necessarily be viewed as a burden, but as an opportunity for one to fully prepare for Marriage.
“I have known a couple of ladies that had been single for quite some time. Instead of forming a pity party, they became accountable to each other. They made up their minds that if they were to finally get married, they would go with the right people,” she says.
Stella recently hosted a single’s preparation for marriage event at Fidodido Auditorium in Kampala, cladding participants in their dream garments as sign of a “prophetic wedding walk into their season.”
She urges singles to have a change of heart and attitude and emphasizes that self-awareness is equally a crucial aspect to being ready for a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
“The pressure from family can at times be overwhelming, but no one will be in that marriage, it is you,” she says
“Some women have shunned attending family functions for fear of being scorned, others have been dared to at least have a child if marriage has failed,” she adds.
For many singles, the bar is raised and expectations heavily influenced by their surrounding even if they enter into a very short relationship with a complete stranger. Stella urges singles to discern God’s plan for their lives, and avoid wasting time on distractions.
At times we ladies have high expectations, Stella says, that we miss our time of visitation.
“We end up chasing the right person,” the Beauty for Ashes International Ministries team leader says.
“Do not look at the current status of people. You need to look beyond who someone is, to what they will be. Go deeper in prayer for God’s revelation of these guys that come around,” she explains.
By Paul W Dennis.
