Stella Aza-Madia. (Courtesy Photo)
The institution of marriage involves a covenant between a man, a woman, and God.
While in her 20’s, Stella Aza-Madia, a Christian radio presenter in Kampala set a target that she should be married at 24 years of age.
“For vague reasons, I became desperate and rushed into making a choice of a partner,” she said. “During those times we never had meetings like ‘singles preparation for marriage’. Can I say; I was blindfolded by my target, and amidst efforts to stop me from getting married to that person, I went ahead.”
Her walk into the marriage institution happened without preparation, and for that matter, only lasted two months.
Stella Aza-Madia took to social media on Sunday to discourage married couples from divorce urging that it can be avoided.
Stella, who at only three months, survived being thrown into a pit latrine by her mother, and was later sexually abused by the people she trusted, explained that she had a “full dose of the consequences” that came up as a result of her “mistake”.
“At 26 years of age I had a divorce which hurt me so much. I lost the marriage, the only child I had died eleven (11) days after cesarean section, I had a bleeding complication that took months and almost ran mad due to stress and depression,” she said.
“It took me years to heal – and over the years, I have learnt from my mistake. This is a thing I wouldn’t like anyone to experience. You can avoid that. Divorce is a pain that affects the two parties plus relatives, children and friends. One of the two may seem determined to move on but the unseen pain will always be there,” she continued.
“The guilt, self condemnation ,embarrassment, emotional and physiological torture will always linger and it only takes the grace of God and counseling to deliver one from that pit,” she explained.
According to Stella Aza-Madia, divorce affects both parties even in cases where one may appear strong.
“I don’t want any of you to go through a divorce you can avoid it by being prepared for Marriage,” she said.
Stella in 2001 founded the ‘Beauty for Ashes International Ministries’ with an aim of rescuing an endangered generation, going through silent frustrations.
Here, she often uses the opportunity to talk about her own hero: Jesus Christ. The born-again author believes singles should be nurtured before marriage.
“Don’t get into marriage because you’re pregnant or you impregnated someone if you’re not yet ready for that. You should not add a mistake to another disastrous mistake,” she said.
“Don’t get into marriage because you have money yet the motives are not right. Money can sometimes get you anyone but that person may not be marriage material. In other wards having money you splash into people’s faces doesn’t qualify you as a marriage material,” she said.
“Don’t get into marriage because you’re broke and you think another person will become your ATM. You need to work hard and have your personal ATM you can bank and withdraw from. This will make you be in charge of your life,” Stella explained.
“You need to first become marriage material in order for your taste to change. When a rat gets into the palace it doesn’t become a Prince or princess. It just becomes a palace rat and hence destructive to the surrounding. It will never become part of the Royal family,” she concluded.
