Dear 40+ year old, do we need to drag you to the altar?

Why in the world are people choosing to be ‘single and searching’ for life? Are you searching for gold or you are hoping that God will miraculously create...

drag

Why in the world are people choosing to be ‘single and searching’ for life? Are you searching for gold or you are hoping that God will miraculously create a different species of women? We understand that your first crush got married to your best friend; your second girlfriend was snatched by the rich neighbour and your baby mama chose to raise your child with your cousin. But life goes on.

The belief that you are too good for any woman is deceitful and misleading. You cannot say that for all the women God created, you cannot find just one who is good enough.

Have you for example, noticed that all the women you rejected or dumped are getting married every weekend and living ‘happily’ ever after, while you, Mr ‘single and searching’ keep contributing for their weddings and being the best man or MC?

Don’t you ever get tired? Isn’t there a vein in you that seemingly desires the life that all your buddies have? Are you such a rock that no woman can penetrate to your heart? Or maybe your heart was made of the material Jericho’s walls were made of (although even those eventually fell).

We have heard all your stories and honestly, we are tired. You are not a man until you are able to conquer your fears. No one will ever trust a man who can’t even keep a relationship for a month. You know that quote in the Bible that says, “A poor man’s wisdom is despised, and his words aren’t heard”? Well, a man, however good-looking and accomplished, is to the society, just a boy if he is not married. It’s even not acceptable to give you a front seat in church or at the party.

singlehood, many of which will stain your dignity. And then you will blame the society if they say you can’t ‘perform’. Or you will get into a fight with the girls who will run away just because their parents told them you are married to a ghost. You live the society no choice but to fill up the jigsaw puzzle with their own pieces.

Career is not a woman; it will not create you a family. When you pass on, we don’t want to remember the engineer; we want to remember the husband and father. However ambitious you are, getting to the epitome of your career without having a family leaves you as an empty vessel because in the end you lay in your cold bed, alone. It’s people like you who force death to take you before time, just because there’s no one in the house to rush you to the hospital or call an ambulance.

If the government set up a ministry and appointed me the head, I would drag all these so called senior bachelors to the altar.
Girls are here praying to God for husbands and you are there playing hard to get. Let me tell you, at that age, you don’t even have a choice to be picky. You just marry the next girl who passes by or else, we will drag you to the altar.

By Christine Nakalungi

[divider]

Contact Christine, mycinderellastory@ugchristiannews.com. Courtesy Photo

In this article